Your relationship with your significant other is one of the most important things in your life, but so many times it becomes neglected. Whether you are dating someone, or married for years it is important to simplify your relationship and remember the purpose of being together. It takes work to ensure your relationship is at its best! This doesn't mean it is hard and tiring, but it means you have to dedicate time to nurturing it. Say no to anything that doesn't add happiness to your relationship, and focus on things that bring you closer together and strengthen you as a couple.
Here are 5 ways to organize your relationship which will lead to more love, lots of kisses, and a ton of happiness!
1.) Plan ahead
I have seen so many couples that haven't had a date night in months, or can't remember the last time they did something fun together. This doesn't have to be the status quo for being in a relationship. Pull your calendar out, and plan in advance. Look at the month ahead, and plan as many date nights as you can! Even one date is better than no date nights at all. This one simple step can drastically change your relationship for the better.
2.) As long as you are together
People are busier then ever these days, so it may not always be possible to go on many adventures and fancy date nights, but thats ok! It's more important to have quality time together. Plan movie night, brunch at a cute local cafe, or a romantic night of cooking dinner together. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant. The most important thing is to set aside time to simply be together.
3.) SAY NO!
So many people hate saying no, but your happiness is more important than trying to please everyone. My boyfriend and I care very much for our family and friends, and want to be part of the events and celebrations in their lives, but this doesn't mean we have to attend every single invitation. Sometimes it is ok to stay home and not be part of every social event. You need to ask yourself, " Is it more important to make everyone else happy and say yes all the time, or to nurture my relationship and say no when we need time to ourselves?" A great compromise is to attend the event, but let them know you can only stay a few hours. This way you are able to spend time with your loved ones, but leave early enough to spend time together.
4.) Open communication
Do not harbor things inside of you. Be open with your partner on how you feel about your relationship. If you harbor things inside, you will eventually start to resent the other person and that is a recipe for disaster! Do not cast blame or start an ugly fight, but sit down with your significant other and let them know you miss them and you really want to work on spending more quality time together.
I often hear couples refer to the same routine in their life - " They have a long busy day at work, come home to a house full of chores and things to do, eat dinner and then its time to go to bed and start again. And weekends end up being the time to catch up on more house chores." I am not going to sugar coat it. Life gets hectic and sometimes extremely overwhelming! This is why it is important to outsource some things. Can you hire a babysitter to watch the kids one night a week so you can enjoy date night ? Can you hire a local college student to buy your groceries allowing you an extra couple hours with the family? Can you hire an assistant at work so your workload is less stressful allowing you to come home happier and ready to spend time with your significant other? Imagine how much more time you could have together as a couple if you outsourced just 5 hours worth of things a week. You could spend an entire Saturday together!